How do you like clients to feel about the experience when they leave?
Well, the best response would be, "I have never been touched like that before in my life!" - which a client did once tell me - but of course it would be greedy to want that response every time! But seriously, I want my clients to feel peaceful, and more than that, I want them to feel at peace with their body and their erotic nature. I want them to feel that their whole being - body, mind and spirit - has been unified.
Tell us a little about yourself, if you were to pick something what would you like your clients to absolutely know about you?
I give my clients my undivided, 100 per cent attention for the entire time they are with me. They are my only priority every second of the time they are here.
Do you consider yourself a successful Masseur?
Yes, successful in that I offer my own very particular thing. No-one does "me" better than me.
How would you like someone that contacts you for a massage to feel when they leave?
That's a very big question. People come with different needs. But I would say that all my clients slow down when they are with me. And my aim is to make them feel whole and connected and peaceful.
Why did you become a Masseur?
I was doing a two-year *** and Spirit training with the German personal development group Gay Love Spirit. During the training I found that I had a talent for erotic massage - and on top of that, the fees for the course were quite high. So I decided to pay for the course by massaging.
What distinguishes you from all the other Masseurs?
My touch and my presence.
How long have you been a Masseur and how long do think you'd like to continue?
Nine years. It's a nice thing to have in one's life - I find it balancing - so I imagine I'll keep it on the go in some form for as long as I am physically able to.
What advice would you give to someone who wants to be a Masseur?
After you have decided what kind of massage you want to do and learnt how to do it, here are some tips: (1) Make sure the room is warm enough! There is nothing worse than a cold massage. (2) Be friendly. Even if the client doesn't want you to chat, he wants to feel welcome. (3) Get your text and your photos right and you will attract the right clients. Be clear and specific in your text, specifying exactly what makes your service unique. And always look straight into the camera for your photos!
Some people say that being a Masseur is addictive. Would you miss your Masseur days ?
Touch is like a vitamin. It's a basic human need, and you get a lot of energy from it. So yes, massage could be addictive, but you also need to take a break from time to time. Sometimes I take a couple of years off, then go back.
What are your hobbies, what do you like to do in your spare time?
I make music... ferment vegetables... Lots of stuff. I also make my own kombucha, which you are welcome to try if you come and see me.
I'm also a professional tarot reader - not exactly a hobby, but another string to my bow. Some masseurs mix massage and erotic work with tarot readings, and thought that's not my regular thing, I am happy to provide you with psychic advice if you need it.
How often do you travel? Do you prefer to travel or are you more of a homebody?
I travel less often than I used to these days, because I have settled in Berlin, which is, so far, my favourite city. You can get out of town pretty easily - in an hour you can be out in a forest, swimming in a lake. Each area of Berlin has its own distinctive character and its own way of doing things. I like showing people around the city too, so if you're alone in town and need a guide as well as a masseur, let me know!
Do you remember your first client ? Tell us something about that first day when you decided to be a Masseur!
Yes, I do remember it. I was quite young and wanted to do erotic massage but I hadn't really thought it through. It was such a disaster that I didn't even get paid!
Is extensive training necessary for a Masseur in order to be successful?
I have always been an erotic masseur, for which I did train quite extensively. Because this is quite an unusual type of massage - at least, unusual to do properly - there are no accreditation systems in place, and you can't really get a recognised certificate. I made the conscious decision not to study a therapeutic massage discipline because I wanted to remain completely in the erotic realm.
Erotic massage is as much an art form as a therapy, but some basic knowledge of anatomy is necessary, and beyond that, there is quite a lot of useful training that you can do. Looking after people in an intimate way is quite a complex and challenging business, and shouldn't be entered into lightly. There are various schools of erotic touch in Europe and America, which you can find with a little research. In Germany, start by checking out Gay Love Spirit and Authentic Eros (with its amazing Stretch Festival).