IntimacyMatters's Personal Masseur Interview

Last Updated: Apr 28, 2017

- Empowered, released, peaceful, nurtured, complete.

- No, but it is important to start with a basic massage course. A bit like learning to drive one must know how the car works and how to navigate the road before you can be a driver but once you have passed your test then you can become as good as you can be in a style that fits with you. The more practice you get the better masseur you will become. Numerous certificates on the wall will not necessarily mean you are a good masseur simply one who goes to a lot of courses.

- I try to travel at least 3 times year. Living in London is great. It is a city with so much to offer but occasionally it is nice to escape. I like to go to sunny places and snowy places but also other interesting cities are good to explore for a few days.

- I trained in therapeutic massage in 1995 so 22 years but giving sensual / erotic massage since 2005 ( 12 years ) I see myself doing this until the day people do not see a value in coming to see me. My work is vocations so I imagine in the future even in the old people's home other residents will still want to receive a massage!

- I combine a natural talent for giving physical pleasure with my knowledge and experience as a trained psychosexual therapist.

- You must be comfortable in your own body, you must have naturally empathetic nature, you must be no judgemental, you must be confident to say no when you want to say no, you must be able to feel a love for your client no matter who they are. You must know your own personal boundaries and not be afraid to maintain them.

- Long story but from as young as 10 years old when I witnessed a massage being given I wanted to be able to do the same. Not until I was 35 did the opportunity arrive for me to train but when it did I discovered that not only did I have a natural skill but that I simply loved the whole intimate process. I started giving sensual massage in 2005 when after exploring my own sexuality I decided to broaden my service to include sensual massage because when I was trying to discover my own sexual identity I would have like to have done this with an empathetic professional rather than a stranger from a website! So now I give to others what I wanted then. A safe place where a person can let go and explore sensual intimacy without fear of being judged or revealed.

- Yes, I have worked full time as a sensual masseur and sex mentor for 12 years and in that time I have seen over 6000 clients. So I am well practised and according to the testimonials given to me on my website, I am good at what I do. The proof of being successful or not is in the reputation one builds, not just for the massage but the way in which you work with people. Return visits and personal recommendations are a good gauge to this and fortunately many of my clients come to me as a result of both.

- Working full time as a sex therapist and masseur I give both massage treatments and sex mentoring, sometimes combined. I also run workshops teaching massage to individuals and groups. Of course, I like the variety of work since I find human sexuality a fascinating subject and helping people explore and understand their sexual dynamic is always rewarding. But the best part of my job is the giving of pleasure. To be able to give physical pleasure is the greatest of pleasures. I hope I continue to do this for a long long time.

- Swim, Tennis, Theatre, Cycling.

- Loved, empowered, fulfilled and human

- That I give to others what I would expect to receive myself. That I can give through sensual massage male to male intimacy in a way that can and has changed lives.

- July 2005. He reminded me of myself. A man who was married who wanted for the first time to explore his sexuality with another man. A sensual massage was the answer and I realised that as well as the professional training I had as a therapeutic masseur I could combine erotic arousal and mutual exploration that would enable him to feel genuine male to male sensual intimacy. He loved it and I found the experience incredibly profound and realised this was a job I could do for life. 12 years on I still enjoy my work as much as i did that first day