hairyandfriendly's Personal Masseur Interview

Last Updated: Apr 26, 2020

- Come at it with bucketloads of empathy. Try to put your own wants and preferences aside, and be selfless as much as possible.

Get a natural high from knowing you a helping another soul out by providing a safe and intimate space for them to let go and let down their daily shield that we all carry...

- I trained for two years in Hawaii, which has the strictest massage therapist licensing requirements in the nation. We studied pre-med, learning every bone and muscle in the body. And we were required to complete a 500-hour internship in a medical or spa establishment.

Only half the students typically passed the grueling State Board exams!

Yes, professional training matters because you learn how NOT to hurt people! Having said that, a person either has "the touch" or they don't. Training can't teach that - it's simply innate and instinctual.

- Humans need intimacy. Since caveman times, humans have had a deep need to be touched, to be hugged, to feel physical closeness with another body. Without it, we suffer. Tactile need is in our primal DNA.

Yes, there's ***ual intimacy but there's also simply personal intimacy - like feeling comfortable enough to confide something to someone without being judged or ridiculed.

- I take pride in a being "a good Dad." There are a lot of boys out there of all ages who need a warm (and ***y!) father figure to feel close to, who gets them, who makes them feel seen, and feel safe.

I really enjoy providing that kind of positive Dad/Bro/Coach/Mentor role to younger guys who may have never experienced it in their own lives...

I say to first time clients, "I'll leave you with a smile on your face." They chuckle, but they know I mean it.

Oftentimes guys come in all nervous or shy or anxious - and thus, tense! - and I enjoy putting them at ease and making them feel comfortable to be themselves.

- I tell clients that I'm happy to travel to another county, another city, even if it's a 2 or 3 hour drive away.

They usually say something like they wouldn't ask me to drive all that way for them. But I spent my childhood in Southern California perpetually riding in the back seat of a car - long freeway drives are my natural habitat!

I appreciate when I have enough notice beforehand. That way, a client isn't in a rush asking when I'll get there and what's taking me so long! I am often at the mercy of traffic, road works, and weather - one can only control one's universe to a certain extent. ;-)