nycmasseur's Personal Masseur Interview

Last Updated: Aug 06, 06:24

- Training is the seed, experience grows the tree. Both matter to me and should to the discerning client. Most clients here only want underwear models.

The bitter truth about the M4M massage business is that we who serve are all "the flavor of the month." Clients use us, then move on to the next flavor, i.e., masseurs are things. Nothing loyal or faithful about it. Both the M4M massage and real estate development are probably the two most cold-blooded businesses that exist; however the latter is the only one you make real money in. But money was never a high priority with me. I was and am an artist.

No matter how many underwear models offer fake massages, I know the potential and the true holiness of what massage can be--and that is healing. Our society puts too little value on healing; or turns it into a cliche. But when you have that gift, no one can take it away. I am humbled by the beauty and power of what massage can do; and so grateful I can do it, do it well and share it with those who appreciate me. F*** the disrespect and shade I get for what I do.

In the gay world massage is always confused with sensuality and disrespected. That comes from internalized homophobia.

- Like they've been touched by a muscular, sensual version of the Holy Ghost ; )

- I'm part lust-addict myself with a huge sex drive, so when the client and I have good chemistry, the sky's the limit as long as we are safe. When the chemistry isn't there I fall back on my massage technique and focus on the more therapeutic aspects of the session (with room for sensual play of course if desired). It's always a balancing act to be professional in bodywork and discern what I want from what the client wants.

Who said anything about missing my massage days? I will be offering massage when I'm on a walker (no, not there yet beaatch !).

If I found the right man for a partner, I may curb my appetites and/but we would definitely have to come to some kind of an understanding between balancing out having a relationship with enough space to breath (for both of us). I don't believe that men, especially queer men are by nature monogamous. A true partnership goes way beyond the bedroom. It's built with time just like a solid friendship.

- Like they've been touched by the Immaculate Conception!

- If I do therapeutic massage on you OR sensual massage on you, they are both part of the WORK that I do. One kind of massage is just as valuable as another kind, they are just different. Sometimes clients mistakenly assume or think that because I am enjoying touching them, they are entitled to my services for free. This is an erroneous assumption on their part. I do not provide free massage (unless you are 91 and in pain all the time)! I am gifted in that I know how to relieve people's pain and with some clients to explore the therapeutic benefits of dopamine creation (sacral chakra work). It's very rare that M4M clients can appreciate these skills together. Often clients rationalize that because I am doing some sensual massage, they are entitled to it. Both healing and sensual massage are work; when I'm on the meter. If we are on a date or "just hanging out" that's not work, it's play. Client often confuse the two. I often ask "Do you work for free?"

When I deal with men, I try to assume nothing, and discern what the client's intentions are and what mine are. Clarity of intention creates happiness for all!

- Have you heard of "The Pleistocene Epoch?" LOL.
Licensed in 1991. I will probably be doing massage when I'm using a walker! Funny thing is, often when I'm massaging I forget my own aches and pains. That's a great metaphor for my intention; to help people with my hands.

- I'm the one and only nycmasseur.

- If I wake up everyday and can survive living in NYC, that's a BIG success. Frequent visits to my roof to get away from people are a great help. I prefer the sky and stars to people. The fact that I have roof IS a sign of success in this urban jungle.

- I massaged a client's mole during my Swedish Institute clinic training and it fell off. He didn't notice so ignored it. It was my first introduction to how gross this work could be and I passed with flying colors. The mole was meant to be rubbed off! LOL.

- Have clear intentions, have clearer boundaries. And remember you must die...

- Anything creative. Making music, seeking acting work; working out, biking, unicycling and caringtaking for old C***ts LOL. And I LOVE watching bodybuilders pose and flex. Yum!

- I wanted to be a star but God had a different plan.

- If you've got the money, I've got the time.