Jes's Personal Masseur Interview

Last Updated: Aug 20, 2019

- Wasnt this already asked? I want them to feel euphoric! I want them to feel like their money was well spent. I want them to feel like smiling for no reason. I want them to feel 10 years younger. I want them to feel present, like theres no need to rush, like they could just stand still for a long time and feel the breeze in their hair, that their eyes are drinking in the world in a new way, that they love the way their body feels.

- Yes and no. Practice makes perfect. Intention and focus are more important than certificates. It may seem like a lucrative career based on dollars per hour, but like any self employment, there are so many unpaid hours to get those paid hours. I was making a lot more money as a nurse, and had more consistency. I do this because it is more fulfilling. Training alone wont do it if you're not passionate about it. Training can help one feel confident which is important.

- I am more of a homebody, because I like routine and creature comforts. I do enjoy travel as well.

- Im a human being which means I benefit from touch. Babies will die without touch. So in that sense I have always been and will always be a masseur. That's all that's relevant. The more energy I devote to it, the more energy it will give me. One day when I retire I will probably volunteer to touch people who are touch deprived, who cant afford to pay someone.

- My training for one. There are not a lot of Somatic sex educators/ sexalogical bodyworkers out there. There should be and I imagine the numbers are growing. Its a very professional training that is truly the leading edge of sex work. Its based in science, and emerged from the queer community. The fact that I was a nurse and have a lot of experience caring for people in very vulnerable, needy states. I developed a lot of compassion doing that work. My hypnosis training means that Im able to create a mind/body experience. I use my voice and words to guide people into an altered state, more swiftly than if it was just with touch.
My Qi Gong training and practice has made me very sensitive to energy and has enhanced my psychic talents in being able to work with energy. This means that I am working on many levels at once with my clients. Perhaps most importantly is the spiritual intentionality that I bring to every session. It is always about two souls meeting. The love that I bring to my work I believe makes me unique. I believe that sex and eros and our bodies are spiritual.

- Make sure you are good at taking care of yourself. Learn as much as you can about self care. Really nurture your own health. Dont smoke or drink. These things can cause you to take on other peoples energy that they are releasing during the process. If you are a caring person, which you should be for this work, then learn how to have good boundaries as well. Self care and good boundaries are fundamental. Not everyone is cut out to be a healer. If you really are drawn to it, be patient with yourself; you'll get better in time. There will be some clients who are impossible to please and some that are an absolute delight. Stand firmly in your intention and gift, and offer it with grace. There are many people who can benefit from your service. Don't deprive the world of your light because you dont think you are ready. Life will teach you if you are teachable.

- It kind of unfolded over time. I think I was touch deprived as a teen. I felt lonely being the only gay in the village kind of scenario. When I did start to have contact with men, I just enjoyed it so much. I also realized that It was pleasurable to give pleasure. I loved the feeling of being able to facilitate someone elses pleasure. I liked to see them melt and open. I could feel myself blend with them. I have good intuition, and it helped me find just where to touch people, how to release their tension and how to give them a lot of pleasure.

- Right now Im working on an art and education project around male sexuality called DicksAreMagic. www.dicksaremagic.com Its social commentary and creative and I'd really love to see people walking around with my art on their bodies. Its a form of sex positive activism. Its also a way of lightening up the topic. I think fashion and art are really fun. Im primarily an artist. Ive played with many mediums over the years.
I also am studying Qi Gong quite extensively. Its a really incredible practice and fits beautifully with doing body work and energy work. Its medical Qi Gong so its about healing and health. Its a 5000 year old Chinese movement and meditation practice. Ive been studying it for over 10 years, but more recently been getting more serious about it. I traveled to Asia and studied with a master for 5 months last year. Theres this thing called sexual KungFu which is basically healing oneself with sexual energy cultivation. Its super potent stuff, and Ive had some profound experiences with it. It takes a lot of practice but its worth it!

- I would like for them to feel free, lifted, light, euphoric, joyous, happy, energized, that their money was well spent, that they remember the feeling of being alive, that they feel opened and tender and present.

- That Im a very loving person. My spiritual practice is about unconditional love. I believe that love is healing, pleasure is healing and I experience healing myself by loving my clients. I define love as unconditional positive regard. That means I choose to see them as lovable. I believe this creates a sort of vibrational environment that is rare.I think that this is the most valuable aspect of the service I offer. That I practice seeing the divine nature of my clients, that sexuality is a holy thing, that all of the woundedness that we have experienced can be healed with love.

- Yes and no. Because of the unique style that I provide, which is truly a therapeutic modality, with pleasure coaching and education, there's not a lot of awareness of all that I can provide. Not many people understand erotic hypnosis or something like masturbation coaching. The somatic sex education modality is not well known. I can give a standard erotic massage and feel successful in delivering that, but my desire is to be a successful somatic sex educator who utilizes erotic hypnosis and Taoist erotic practices. At this point, not a lot of people are asking for that. They just dont know it exists!

- I really enjoy touching people and guiding them. Its taken me a long time to develop the skill set that I have now. I think anything that one enjoys could be considered addictive. At some point I imagine that I will need to let it go; that's like everything in life. I'm a life long learner, so if it doesn't feel challenging anymore it will be time to move on.

- That's a long time ago now. It began with coworkers, friends and family. As a nurse I had lots of physical contact with people. The first few times giving erotic massages were during my training, other than with partners. The first few times doing it professionally I know I was nervous because I wanted to do a good job. The sexual tension really heightened everything. I've become quite familiar with that now and really use it to shift my state of consciousness, to use my heightened state to provide an exceptional experience.