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Namaste Everyone and Happy Holidays to you!

It's wild that I'll be in Santa Fe, New Mexico a week from today. I'm SUPER excited! If you're in Santa Fe and the surrounding areas, reach out to talk about sessions to fill your holidays with spirit, pleasure, healing, and joy! I have a very good idea of my schedule of availability so far and you'll want to connect sooner than later to make sure you get a session in your busy festive schedule. I'll have availability on and off through Jan 1st.

If you have been here before, you may have noticed the new photos I've added. You're welcome. ;) If you're new, enjoy the holiday photos showing I'm ready to ride your sleigh. ;)

As I'll be leaving soon, I want to give an extra special gift to those who choose to celebrate the holidays with a solo session or also four-hand sessions with myself and Mercury. If you're in NY, IN-CALLS will be $25 off of solo sessions and $50 off of four-hand sessions. There will not be a discount for out-call sessions here in NY. Special discounts for couples, ask about them!

For those in Santa Fe, I'll be offering discounts on overnight sessions & maybe more! Reach out if you're interested.

With Gratitude,

J

Namaste Everyone & Happy Thursday!

As I'm typing this, I'm shedding a tear over one of the sweetest and most sentimental seasons of Queer Eye. Yes, I am recommending this new season, however that's not what this post is about. As a very sentimental personal, I really appreciate the stories from this season.

Feeling sentimental is a very deep rooted emotion that's often put in the category of emotional. It's complex in that one can feel sentimental over something sad, something nurturing, and something nostalgic. Typically, I feel sentimental is associate most with feeling nostalgic.

Feeling sentimental can be triggered by an object, a shared memory, an experience, and even a person. It's often a feeling we want more of. When we feel sentimental, we can have a hard time letting go, especially when it's the sad kind, attached to grief.

Feeling sentimental is a very high EQ emotion, which means there's intelligence involved in getting yourself to this place. You may not realize it because it's often so fast and automatic. We store these feelings in our body, which is why it's important to massage the body, as well as to move the energy around.

Reach out to be soothed.

James

Namaste Everyone and Happy Wednesday!

The holiday season can feel like a really isolating time for many in the community. Some don't feel they have a home to go to. Some are neurodivergent, dysphoric, or dysmorphic and dissociate to varying degrees. Some have painful memories during this time, such as a partner or parent leaving them or this Earth all together and shut down, as well as shut in. Some are introverted and as a result feel isolated and lonely. There are more - I think you get it, especially since you may have experienced this yourself.

The truth is, we've been isolating within humanity WAY before the pandemic. While having alone time is super important, in varying degrees for different people, isolation is something that doesn't feel empowering or good.

For those who feel supported and have loved ones around them during this holiday season, that's truly wonderful and I'm celebrating you! I'm very grateful to have that myself this year AND even within those spaces we can feel isolated by feeling dismissed for living our authentic selves.

If you're feeling isolated, please reach out for a session. It would be an honor to provide you the intimacy you deserve.

J

Namaste Everyone & Happy Tuesday!

I cannot resist any longer. I'm in season three of this series, "For The Love of DILFS" and I cannot stop talking about it. I haven't had this many layers of feelings about a show in awhile. It's a complicated game.

For those who don't read my blog already, know that typically my blogs are focused on bringing valuable insights into my world, healing, spirituality, emotions, and my services. I don't tend to make it about fluff. There's more to this than fluff.

For those who aren't aware of the show, it's on OUT TV and is hosted by Stormy Daniels. Season 3 is currently streaming and released weekly. The show is a dating game where Daddies and Himbos compete for love, and a small $10,000 towards their relationship. While the typical dating show drama can be entertaining and the observation of humanity, illuminating, this show doesn't make the community look cute.

People aren't nice to each other, let alone respectful much of the time. The games and context doesn't set them up for that. People are lying and disloyal. It's very monogamy focused, which is fine, however does that even represent the community fully? I'm still watching. Reflecting.

J.

Namaste Everyone & Happy Moonday!

Today has been a very moon-day mood and therefore, lots of interesting happenings. I have had many conversations and all very inspiring. One of the themes central to all of them was of heroism from the perspective of what some call "savior complex" or "the fixer archetype". There are many different ways of saying that someone has a pattern of jumping in to rescue someone who may not need rescuing. Sometimes, this can even make things much worse. Let's break it down.

Heroism is authenticated by providing a service of bravery and unconditional love in major support to someone they care about or even more so, someone they don't know. The way to quantify this is different person to person and depending on circumstances, however there tends to be a theme of life or death experiences. Or at minimum, something that really changed someones life for the better. Often times magnified when impacting many people at once.

Feeling heroic comes from the ego & while the ego isn't bad, jumping in without consent doesn't tend to be received well. Empower others to rescue themselves and ask before jumping in. Focus on fixing yourself. Don't take others lessons.

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Sunday!

There's an uncomfortable emotion humans may experience quite a bit depending on how they live their lives, and a lot of this comes up during the holidays as we lead into the completion of another calendar year.

Feeling guilty sucks and is not always warranted. Feeling guilty is very much connected to shame, which we have discussed before, as well as grief and it's often centered around truth. Feeling guilty means you're regretting or wishful to an action or behavior you did or didn't take. Sometimes it feels like feeling guilty is a way to fix a scenario because others harmed or impacted may feel better from you feeling guilty. While their ego sometimes might feel that way, once they regulate, they will see things differently.

Feeling guilty doesn't help fix anything. What does is forgiveness, apologies, honesty, vulnerability, and knew inspired actions within integrity with what you say will change.

Sometimes we can feel guilty for eating or saying "the wrong thing". Humans can be super hard on one another, especially within the self.

Release it all and allow yourself to be perfectly imperfect. Learn and choose differently.

I forgive.

J

Namaste Everyone & Happy Saturday!

How was the rest of your week? Mine was full and exciting! There's a lot going on as I prepare for this trip to New Mexico. I'm really excited to be able to make this personal trip into a personal and professional trip. This means it's my time availability will be flexible, while also being specific. It's in both our best interests for us to get sessions book in advance, as much as possible, that said, you can book sessions with me once I'm there.

My availability will begin as early as Dec. 20th and complete by January 1st.

I'm available:
Dec. 20th
Dec. 21st 4pm on
Dec. 22nd
Dec. 23rd before 3 pm, 8 pm on
Dec. 24th before 3 pm, 11 pm on
Dec. 27th before 5 pm, 11 pm on
Dec. 28th
Dec. 29th before 6 pm, After 11 pm
Dec. 30th
Dec. 31st

Reminder that I'll be able to do out-calls much easier than in-calls. If I get enough in-call requests, I will get a hotel or another location for a brief window to fulfill for those sessions. Out-calls will be easier and will include a travel fee necessary as I don't have my own vehicle when I'm there. You're welcome to send me a car or get me yourself to avoid an added fee. Multiple sessions for discounts.

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Thursday!

As we see a path clearing to the end of 2024, most of us are (or will be) promptly reflecting on our 2024. It's a time to see both the successes and room for improvement. Some may still have regrets and feel disappointed in themselves, in others, and in the universe.

When I think of feeling disappointed, the first thing that comes to mind is my parents. Do you resonate? I don't know of many who haven't spent a significant part of their life answering to their parents desires and wishes in order to gain their approval, and love. When we disappoint our parents, it can feel devastating, even into adulthood because that childhood wounding is so deep.

Disappointment actually starts most importantly within ourselves. The expectations people place on us are one thing, however what we internalize and place on ourselves is even more impactful. It can create a freeze and lots of negative self-talk inside.

While I aim to please with my clients, I can trust they won't be disappointed because I'm putting my all into that session. I've checked-in with the questions necessary to serve powerfully and spent time, as well as energy on myself first.

James

Namaste Everyone & Happy Wednesday!

When I go to Santa Fe, New Mexico later this month (Dec. 20th - Jan 2. availability on and off - reach out!), I will not be able to host in-call at my location, which means I will be leaning into out-call sessions, unless I get enough interest for in-call, in which case I may get a hotel briefly to accommodate.

It's been awhile since I've discussed out-calls, so let's dive in, especially if you're knew to receiving these types of massages.

What's an out-call? An out-call session is when a Masseur travels to the clients location.

While there may be some limitations as to what a Masseur can bring to an out-call depending on their circumstances of travel and willingness, as well as an increased cost due to said travel, there are major benefits for the client.

The perks of an out-call are often related to the travel aspect. You don't have to travel. When you're tired or well rested afterwards, you can remain in your space where you feel safe an comfortable to extend your bliss. There's no fuss over travel costs for you, no time lost & you can fit it into your schedule easier. Of course, you'll have the memories too.

Reach out for an out-call.
J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Tuesday!

I don't know about you, but today is hitting differently. I feel the new energies and I can honestly say that I feel more grounded, secure, clear, peaceful, and present than I ever have. It used to be pure chaos internally and therefore, externally, and then I had this huge wave of integration during therapy today. I'm really proud of myself and celebrating big time! Things are feeling really good in terms of where they are going and I'm super excited about how this calendar year will complete and how 2025 is filled with incredible potential. I have reclaimed my power and I am claiming all the opportunities for joy, health, balance, and abundance for 2025.

The year is not over - don't give-up! Many get so exhausted by this point it feels like the year is dragging on and there's no escape. When the clock strikes midnight for January 1st, your life will not fall apart and even if it feels overwhelming, you WILL be stronger and everything is happening for you.

If you're looking to have a session with myself or with both of us for four-hand, you'll want to book those sessions before the 18th of December if you're in NY or coming here.

James

Namaste Everyone and Happy Moonday!

Yesterday the new moon in Sagittarius entered into our sky and brought a dedicated energy into the mix, clashing with the challenges of Mercury in retrograde. There's so much to learn here. On Friday, Mars will go retrograde after two years and honestly, we're all catching-up to all the change. This may be an overwhelming or stimulating time for you, so keep breathing and hang-on! 2025 is looking super promising as the Earth with shift into a 9 year of completion and the Snake energy, as well.

When quick changes, as well as big changes happen, I know that I become rather tender. I also desire a lot of tenderness. These holiday seasons bring-up many emotions and some extra TLC can go a long way. If you're feeling tender, know I resonate with what you're feeling and have great capacity to provide the tenderness you're needing.

There are many ways to feel tender in ones heart, as well as many causes. I encourage you to lean into the love languages to know how express tenderness to those who are in a tender moment. Make sure you match the love language with the person so your intentions are well-received.

Reach out for a tender touch.

James

Namaste Everyone and Happy Saturday!

I thought I would spice things up with a fun lil' post about some of the best holiday movies I've seen so far this season. For me, this is a fun tradition of enjoying movies, snacks, and cuddles. This post isn't going to be about the best of all-time. It's a list of more recent movies I feel are worth your rest time. I haven't seen every new one because I have to mix them in with the classics.

My Top 5 new Holiday Movies:

1. Our Little Secret - Lindsay Lohan and Kristin Chenoweth star in this epic and hilarious film about a pair of ex's who discover the people they're dating are siblings.

2. The Merry Gentlemen - Chad Michael Murray is extra yummy in this movie where Britt Robertson's character get's fired from Broadway and hires local hotties to help her save her parents bar.

3. Hot Frosty - Your fave Meangirl stars in this movie where a hot snowman comes to life and melts her heart

4. A Merry Scottish Christmas -She's back in this one where her and her estranged sibling celebrate the holidays with their Scottish mom in a beautiful castle where they learn a family secret

5. Christmas Island - A private pilot lands her love.

Enjoy!

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Holidays!

I hope you felt safe, loved, and grateful yesterday - whether you gathered or not. As I have frequently spoken about in my blog, it's not always easy for those in our community around the holidays. Compassion and empathy with one another can go a long way to helping someone who feels unloved, unaccepted, and alone get through this challenging time.

This time, I want to dip into the joys of being queer in the holiday season because it's simply not true that everyone is miserable, which is progress!

I'm very grateful to be getting in a lot of family time these days and while I don't always feel understood or like I fit in, I do feel accepted and in some circumstances, it's getting even easier. This makes holiday shopping that much more rewarding. I LOVE to give gifts and create that intimacy with those I love.

If you're looking for a relaxing gift for this holiday season, whether for yourself, someone else, or for you and a partner(s), getting a Masseur's Choice Session is the ultimate present. Message me "Holidays" when booking this session for $20 off for In-Calls in Brooklyn, NY through 12/18. You will leave feeling the holiday cheer.

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Wednesday!

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving in America, which is a holiday which many of us feel mixed about for many reasons. Whether because of the history of the holiday or the complexities of familial dynamics, there's a lot of feelings going around. Though it's a holiday focused on gratitude, many feel a sense of deep sadness, frustration, loneliness, and even anger when it comes to this specific holiday and the season in general. The holiday's are for everyone and yet many feel isolated, nostalgia, left out, and everything in between.

There is no one right or wrong way to feel and experience the holidays. My sincerest hope for you is for you to find a way to experience gratitude, peace, and love. I desire for you to feel surrounded by those you care about and those who care about you. I desire for you to feel that love unconditionally. I desire for you to be at that friend and/or family gathering or adventure, and be confident in being your full authentic self.

It's healthy and understandable to feel mixed emotions, so long as you process them and remember that you are deeply worthy of love and respect. I see you and I appreciate you for you.

James

Namaste Everyone & Happy Tuesday!

It's been a very full-filling few days! I've made a lot of progress in ways that are having me feel really wealthy. Wealthy isn't only about money, it's a top-tier abundance which can speak to anything that helps you feel rich.

When we feel wealthy, we tend to feel unstoppable and have the courage, as well as the confidence to take on our dreams. We find ourselves in the cycle of giving more and therefore, receiving more. It can be really inspiring.

When we aren't feeling wealthy, we feel the lack and loneliness. More than our needs not being met, it can bring up a lot of insecurities.

Around this holiday's, the topic of wealth comes-up a lot as we discuss travel and gift-giving to those we care about most. It can weigh heavily on our hearts. There's a key to this, which is to honor. where you are, visualize where you want to be, take action, and then let it go.

Part of wealth is about starting with the mindset of wealth & that's often about acknowledging the amount of wealth you have and radically accepting that. Know that it can change.

Clients who come to me have the opportunity to receive Reiki within their session to help generate $.

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Friday!

It's been a whirlwind of a time, so I'm sorry that I haven't gotten out as many posts. I truly love sharing my inner-thoughts with you and providing both educational, as well as entertaining posts for you to enjoy. To me, it brings us closer and deepens our intimacy, which is something I'm ecstatic about.

If you read this blog regularly, you've probably figured out that I get excited about a lot of things and intimacy is one of them. There are less things that I get ecstatic about because ecstatic is reserved for the things that REALLY light me up inside.

Feeling ecstatic is an almost overwhelming mount of joy where it feels like you're going to explode from the happiness. A fun example is thinking about the first time you ever saw a cute animal and felt the overwhelming love. It's like a full body takeover.

There's ecstatic dance for a reason, as well as ecstatic orgasms. Right now, I'm feeling ecstatic about a new project around intimacy that I'm doing in my outward-facing professional life. It really helps me to feel alive to be serving in that way.

It would be an honor to bring the ecstatic out of you. Reach out for a solo/four-hand!

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Thursday!

It's now Sagittarius season, which at least for me, is more grounded and direct. It helps to have a Sag moon. Sag's are good at getting things done, so it's a great energy to tie in the end of the calendar year. Sag's like to be content and so do I - that's a minimum.

To feel content is to feel, even if for what feels like a moment, that everything's okay. This doesn't mean that you won't have some challenges, but that despite them, you know that things are okay. It's a baseline that's stronger into the good feeling emotions than neutral.

Feeling content is a minimum desire. I think many seek to be content and leave it at that. Personally, I strive to always feel amazing. While that's a stretch of what's possible in every second, it's about wanting more for yourself.

So when do you feel content? What do you need to feel okay?

If you're seeking to feel content, look into my services and I can assure you I will have you leaving the session far more than content. I seek to thrill my clients. I desire you to feel amazing and live a life where you are experiencing the best of what it has to offer.

With Gratitude,

James

Namaste Everyone & Happy Tuesday!

The day has finally come! Pluto has now shifted into Aquarius for the next two decades. Even if you're not into astrology, this is one that you're going to notice. Astrologists (as well as the guides I connect with) report huge changes ahead in the name of progress. Technology will advance because people will advance more, and so on. Aquarius has a rebellious and open nature of adventure and doing everything new.

So, what can you take away from this?

You can create intention to create something new, generate abundance, and all around experiences changes that are to your benefit. And you can observe the changes happening around you, as well as society at large. Participate as little or as much as you would like. Resistance to this will frustrate you though.

I can already feel the changes happening and I'll be honest - I don't love all of them. Some of them are really painful to navigate or simply challenging. I do believe all of these shifts that are happening are to benefit my highest good and the same goes for you!

Come for a session to be supported in integrating these new energies, and welcome these changes. We can set intentions too!

J

Namaste Everyone & Happy Moonday!

Many of us feel emotional on Monday's and right now, in general. It's not an energy which lends well to neutrality, however that doesn't mean we don't do what we can to balance out. I like to call it, getting back to baseline.

Some may assume that feeling neutral is the same as feeling indifferent and I personally disagree with that. The discernment is that neutral is an intentional feeling requiring investment and indifference is when you don't care. If you've ever tried to meditate, then you know the difference from personal experience.

When we experience deep emotions, it can be challenging to make the best decisions or take any inspired actions. That's THE moment when it's time to bring yourself back to baseline or to feel neutral. Yes, you can go from feeling sad to feeling overjoyed, however somewhere in there you spent even a blip of a second in the neutral space. This zone is often overlooked, which is unfortunate because it's a powerful space of knowledge and development, especially when it comes to mental, emotional, and spiritual.

Find a simple practice to bring you back to your baseline and from there, you can create powerfully.

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Sunday!

For many, Sunday's are family day or a day of rest, as well as reflection. Some use it for cleaning or hobbies, and self-care. I often spend Sunday's doing a mixture of many things because I like to live my life that way on a day-to-day basis. Today, it's very introspective and I'm reflecting on how many things I've been learning this calendar year - it's been a lot! I have so much more I still hope to learn before the end of the calendar year.

This week I experienced a training on PRT (Pain Reprocessing Therapy) and also a Self-Hypnosis Event. The reason I took these was to gain more knowledge and tools to help myself, those I love, and my clients. If we choose to go through life with this idea that we know everything, we're going to live our life very small. There is always more to learn.

If you're looking to receive and learn more about yourself, I encourage you to reach out for a session. I aim to provide a wonderful massage, yes, however many of my clients want to experience much more. I have clients who want lasting shifts and change.

J

Namaste Everyone and Happy Saturday!

I hope these new energies are treating you well and you've taken some time for self-care! If not, reach out for a session and you're in perfect timing because I just re-set the hot stones for the season! Yes, there are cold stones too, however they live in the freezer. If you've been in my space before, you've certainly seen the hot salt lamps and many don't realize they are actually warm stones for massage. They are at a therapeutic temperature, pairs well with the heated massage table during the colder months.

I have two different stones I like to utilize and have three different shapes to provide various styles of healing with them. I have pink Himalayan rock salt balls, which in general are great for the whole body, as they fit the curves, as well. They cleanse your energy, as well as leave you traces of minerals your body needs. I have heart shaped ones, which are great for balancing the chakras, bringing in unconditional love, and they fit those parts of the body the others don't. Then flat circles of green Jade for circulation, gut health, and more. Those can get very hot or cold. Cold ones help to balance out and sooth muscles.

J

Namaste Everyone & Happy Friday!

Happy Full Moon in Taurus! Taurus are grounding, nurturing, and loyal (among many other things). It's a rather welcoming energy for many and for others the energy may be welcomed to a big shift. I personally enjoy the energy and I also welcome many others into my life.

It's rather frequent that a potential client will ask me.... Is it okay that I'm ______?(name this race, this size, this shape etc.)

It's really upsetting to hear that clients are being rejected because of their looks and equipment instead of being turned away because the aren't the best Masseur for their needs.

The only time that I turn away a client is if I am not the best fit for what they are asking for or because they aren't kind, and respectful. My only requests are to honor me and my boundaries, respect me, and to be kind.

I want to make it super clear that you are welcome regardless of your age, sex, gender, sexual orientation, status (any kind), size, and desires so long as I know that I can serve you powerfully and you are a respectful person. Respect my boundaries and be kind in your questions, and overall interactions.

I am here to serve all beings.

James

Namaste Everyone and Happy Thursday!

I hope you're having a peaceful day. We're about to be in the Taurus Full moon and this energy is more based in grounding action. You might be feeling inspired to complete for closure to have peace of mind or even slow down and develop awareness within. There are choices to be made and you're making them.

Are you making choices that bring you peace? To feel peaceful is a two-part emotion. It's about feeling at peace, as well as acting from peace. Being the peace which you have cultivated.

Many right now aren't feeling peaceful, let alone feeling peace for themselves and that's not something that's comfortable to experience for humanity. When we aren't feeling at peace, we are likely stressed and perhaps even triggered. That can breed anger, violence, and hatred. When we are feeling peace, we are unconditionally loving, patient, caring, and kind.

Which one sounds and feels better for you?

So if you're not feeling peaceful, how can you become peaceful?

Create a dedicated daily practice to bring yourself into a state of peacefulness, such as meditation or another form of care like massage with Reiki to rebalance.

With Gratitude,

James

Namaste Everyone and Happy Wednesday!

Tonight, we're going to get right to the emotion because this is one that's deep in the heart of humanity. Feeling hurt is not a simple emotion, anymore than sad. We know when we are feeling it and yet describing it's more challenging because they why is so personal to each circumstance, as well as each person. There are so many different factors to someone feeling an emotion and with each variable, more wisdom is gained.

Feeling hurt is a deep sadness caused by injury from an object, experience, accident, or person. It's one thing to skin your knee and another thing all together to be in a serious car accident. It's one thing for someone to tell you they like your shirt when they didn't and another thing all together to be cheating on your partner. Right now I'm feeling hurt about the experience I'm having with my cats who aren't in the best health at the moment, and the news I just received, which was discouraging. There are many things that one could be hurt about.

Healing from hurt is something that often requires time and always requires attention. The more you ignore it, the worse it gets. Allow yourself to heal by addressing it.

J