TantraPirat's  Blog

I look forward to every new year. Even though it's an arbitrary thing to mark the change at this particular time of year, it feels right to begin the year as we begin to see more daylight. I just wish that for the sake of our dogs and people living with certain traumas that we weren't so dependent on fireworks in our celebration.
One of the joys of this time of year is the opportunity for us to come together. Parties, and community events can be a lot of fun. But even more satisfying are the intimate moments spent one on one. There's something very special about being able to share touch and gaze with someone, perhaps a special someone.
For many year I had spent the New Year celebration with my partner. We're no longer a couple so I'm just beginning to explore new ways to mark the change of the calendar. I look forward to sharing intimate moments with new people. Maybe it could be you?

One of my favorite things to offer is the early morning session. There are a lot of guys who like to start their day early. For some, it's driven by work schedules. For others it's their personal circumstances, often a partner or spouse who wouldn't approve. And there are some people (myself included) who are at their best early in the day.
In years past I was very much the night owl. I watched many a sunrise before I went to bed. I enjoyed it and I don't regret it. But as I've matured, I've become much more mindful of sleep hygiene. A good night's sleep is a reset for just about every system. Improving my sleep habits started with a consistent bedtime. Most nights I'm asleep by 11 pm.
This has me hitting the boards by 5:30-6:00 am most days. It gives me the luxury of easing into the day.
Early mornings see me at my best. I'm refreshed, optimistic, and my energy level is high. This is why, with a little advanced notice, I often see clients between 6 am and 9 am. So if a satisfying massage is how you'd love to start your day, I'm your guy. If you're working an overnight and need to unwind, try me out!

Truth is that most masseurs do this because it's a great way to earn a living. If you're good, you develop a following and a reputation. Many of us also are genuinely energized and turned on by touching men. But some of us want to do this, while others have to do it. I'm grateful that I do it for the enjoyment and I work only when I want to. The money is nice, but it's not my primary motivator. I have other ways that I pay my bills.
Every now and then I get a call or text from a guy who is drunk or high. This can ruin the experience for me and drain my good energy. It even carries into the next day. Often these requests come in late at night. Late calls are a red flag. Unless I know you from a prior session, it's rare that I'll take a client after 8pm.
Sometimes I'll get a call from a blocked number. I usually don't answer. But on those rare occasions when I do take the call, I won't book unless he calls back on a visible number. This is for safety. While it may not be 100%, it gives me a record. If I'm going to give you my complete attention and effort, at least be honest about who you are.
Most guys are great and I'm glad we've met. But I always protect myself.

A lot of us tend to connect orgasm and ejaculation. It's reasonable since most ejaculations are accompanied by orgasm. But what about orgasm without ejaculation? Some might wonder if that's even possible.
I can say with confidence that it's a real thing and I've experienced it personally and both observed and facilitated it with clients. There are some guys who's physiology doesn't allow for ejaculation, whether due to illness, age, or injury. But I've watched many of them have full on satisfying orgasms without ejaculating. These orgasms can eminate from a variety of body parts, not just the genitals. Often it's triggered through anal/prostate massage. Even guys who don't think of themselves as bottoms can thoroughly enjoy penetration and massage when conducted in a sensitive and responsive way, especially when the breath is engaged and coordinating with the movementa and sensations. Touching nipples, armpits, feet, and body hair have all helped clients (and me) achieve satisfying orgasms often multiple times.
I had one of the most profound and memorable orgasms in my life through my right foot when experiencing ecstatic massage a couple years ago.Yes it's really possible.

The more I share massage, I've begun to explore the idea of sacred intimate.
It hit me intensely when I shared an evening of very intimate sex and touch with a man a bit older than I.
It opened my eyes several ways. We had spent the day partnered at a tantra training retreat. I vaguely knew him but we'd never met face to face. Our exercise was called Power and Surrender. Simplified, it breaks down to dom/sub, top/bottom, but on a much more spiritual level. We played each role, flipping mid afternoon.
As the day progressed we realized, independent and unspoken, that we had totally fucked up the exercise because we had grown a bit too fond of one another.
At the end of the day's training we were free to play together. Without going into all the juicy details, I'll just say that I surrendered. Deeply. Fully. After two hours we began to cool off. Hugging and chatting, he said that this was the first time since he lost his husband 6 years prior that he'd been able to penetrate a man. I cried tears of joy. I had a realization that the erotic energy we bring to our play and our work can be truly healing. It can bring joy, relief, renewal. It can be sacred indeed. It's redefined my job.

It's always interesting to try to determine the right tone to set for conversation during massage. The easy parts are the atmospherics like lighting, music, aromatherapy, and temperature. The physical flow of the massage is usually very straightforward. As a masseur I can judge from physical responses and feedback.
The challenge is often knowing what to say or not say.

I often joke that I've been a licensed counselor, a financial planner, and a bartender so if you feel like telling me what's on your mind, I'm listening. And I enjoy helping client to process. So talk at me to your heart's content. And expect dialog if it's welcome.

But I'll often acknowledge that back in the days when I had a head of hair, I'd go and get a shampoo and cut and do it virtually in silence. There is something therapeutic about just dropping in and luxuriating in the sensations and experience of being worked on. The silence can be release It's meditative, and relaxing, as if something has been lifted.

So expect me to broach the subject. I want this to be your experience. Do you want the sound on or off? I will gladly accommodate.

There are a lot of people who tout tantric massage and practice, but what does that mean? For many, it's what the the Brits call a rub 'n tug. Just a basic massage with a "happy ending." And that's a perfectly nice experience but it's not tantra. The practice of neo-tantra is far deeper than that. It's about using the physical body to open the mind and spirit to higher states. Now that might sound like new age woo-woo, but stay with me.
As we experience pleasure in the body, we release the happy hormones of dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. These are our naturally occurring stimulants and anti depressants. As we approach ejaculation, these build and are rapidly depleted as we go over the edge. If we're able to ride the wave up and down without releasing too soon, we have the opportunity to stay in this higher state. Ultimately this carries beyond the physical body and into our mental and spiritual planes. We're effectively able to achieve higher states of joy and awareness using just our body's ability to feel physical pleasure. Now this is a simplification. There's a great deal more depth. But something as simple as a properly administered tantric massage can be a game changer.