masseurduncan's  Blog

I'll be in London from tomorrow 15th May until Friday 23rd May. I won't have a lot of time so if you'd like a massage be sure to contact me in advance and make a booking.

A message to my regular clients: every seventh session you have with me is free, and it can be as long as you like (well I usually do up to two hours, but if you want a longer one than that let me know!). This is my version of a loyalty card.

I'm back in Berlin, and will be here till February.

I’ll be in London from November 23rd to December 7th.

I’ve been able to reduce my overheads this time, so I have slightly reduced my hourly rate.

I'm in London now till 4th October (next Wednesday).

For work I am mainly based in Fitzrovia.

I am staying in West Kensington where I am also very pleased to welcome you.

I have noticed something like a change of atmosphere in my massage practice. Clients - or at least the clients I see - seem to be becoming more relaxed and friendlier, and this suits me fine. As a sacred intimate I am interested in the whole person, and it's much easier to look after someone who is talking, exchanging and giving something about themselves away. I've always been interested in having regulars, clients I see over a period of time, so that some kind of relationship can evolve. (Perhaps should mention, while we are on the subject, that I am happy to work out discounts if you see me more than a couple of times.)

Perhaps it's me - perhaps I'm becoming friendlier and more relaxed - or perhaps it's just because I'm getting older, and everyone likes to confide in a kindly uncle!

I'lll probably be in the UK for the second half of September. I can pencil in some appointments and confirm them when my flights are booked.

My new photos are by my friend Gilberto Giardini, who can be contacted at www.gilberto-giardini-photovisions.com.

I've just slightly adjusted my pricing structure. From now, I'll be charging €60 per hour as my basic rate, plus €20 for incalls and €40 for outcalls. This means that longer massages will cost less than before.

In other words, incalls now cost:

1 hour: €80
90 minutes: €110
2 hours: €140

And outcalls:

1 hour: €100
90 minutes: €130
2 hours: €160

In London, my price will remain 110 pounds per hour for both in- and outcalls, with reductions for sessions of more than two hours.

There is always 10 minutes or so before and after the massage to chat and/or relax. But what if you need more time than that? If you would like to talk or hang out, or if you would like help or support with any kind of problem or task that’s bothering you, the meeting can be extended. Longer meet-ups take some of the time-pressure off: it becomes less important to deal with everything that might be on your mind in the course of the massage itself. With this is mind, I charge a lower rate for time after the first two hours.

Occasionally one gets massage enquiries from gentleman who are at pains to point out that they are incredibly attractive - and then when you confirm your fees, they say something like, "Oh, I'm terribly sorry, I misread your profile, I didn't realise there was a charge!" Today I got this (translated from the German): "Sorry - I constantly get offers from men - every week-end - who want to massage me free of charge. Naturally that was what I meant."

Part of a tantric masseur's job is clearly to talk to clients, for example about any anxieties they may have about plunging into this unusual kind of experience. I have always made a point of being available for texting, messaging and phonecalls, to anyone who is considering coming for a massage. Even video if I'm not feeling too ragged! And I am happy to keep in touch and be available over fairly long periods of time, as clients think about it and work out how they feel.

The complications come when one has to judge whether or not this person one is chatting to will in fact ever show up for a massage at all, or whether the chatting is, for them, the sum total of the experience they seek. In this case, it's still fine, but I define it as counselling. And there is a small charge for that.

So the message is, don't be shy, get in touch. And if you really need to chat but aren't sure if you will ever come for a session, that's fine, just let me know and we can work something out.

If you have never had a tantric / erotic massage before, feel free to get in touch and ask me about it, either by message or by phone.

If you need to feel safe with the situation, we can even meet for a quick coffee before the massage. I know that going into a stranger's environment can be a challenge.

If you find nudity challenging and would like to break yourself in gradually, consider finding a naked yoga class (regardless of if you've ever done yoga - they usually cater for beginners too). This can be a non-threatening way to get used to being naked around people you don't know.

I'm back in Berlin now. Hi and thanks to all the lovely people who came for massages in London this month. Keep in touch and see you next time!

Duncan

Next week is my last week in London during this current trip. I still have some slots left so get in touch and make a booking if you need a massage!

And feel free to contact me with any questions if you like:-)

In case you missed my last, I will be in London and working till 27th March. As usual I have access to the nice studio in Fitzrovia where I have been made to feel so very welcome.

I am usually quite busy when in London, and it's just two more weeks, so if you'd like a massage, do make a booking in advance if you can.

My rate in London, for both incalls and outcalls, is 90 pounds per hour plus 30 pounds cover charge. This is a little higher than my Berlin rate (which is displayed here in my profile while I am in Germany) because I have higher overheads in London.

I will be in London from march 7th to 28th. Very pleased to be coming over. As usual I will have access to the nice studio in Fitzrovia where I have been made to feel so very welcome.

I am usually quite busy when in London, and it's just three weeks, so if you'd like a massage, do make a booking in advance if you can.

My rate in London, for both incalls and outcalls, is 90 pounds per hour plus 30 pounds cover charge. This is a little higher than my Berlin rate (which is displayed here in my profile while I am in Germany) because I have higher overheads in London.

I am planning on coming to London in March, probably for three weeks. I don't have the exact dates fixed yet. Keep in touch if you would like to book a massage when I am there.

My wish-list on Amazon, from the modest to the completely unreasonable! :-)

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I'm back in Berlin now, after three weeks in London.

London has this strange, hysterical energy at the moment, but I was surprised at how many nice people I met there. Taxi drivers, people who run the local post office, people working at train stations. Cafe owners. Helpful and friendly.

Really enjoying being in London at the moment. I have been lucky enough to find some nice guys who have a massage studio bang in the centre of town, so I can see clients there. Couldn't be more central - it's a 5 minute walk from Centrepoint - and the futon room, which I use, is calm and restful.

I'll be in London till the end of November. I'm getting quite a lot of bookings so far, so book now (as they say) to avoid disappointment:-)

Clearly one can't be in two places at once! I'll be in London from 9th to 30th November and available for outcalls and incalls. During this time I will also be able to massage in Brighton - but that will be outcalls only, because I don't have a studio down there. But let me know if you'd like me to come down and give you a massage. On certain dates I will be there anyway (23rd and 24th) and there would be no travel surcharge.

I'm based in Berlin but I get quite a few clients who are visiting from the US. They have US cellphones, clearly. So this guy calls me and the line is very bad and he sounds a bit strange. It's a US number. I ask him if he's in Berlin and he says, "um... yes." I ask him whereabouts and he says, "Um... north of you." I can't remember clearly, but I think later on in the conversation, or in another call, he says he is "south" of me.

You see, I'm going over it all in retrospect to work out exactly when it was that I should have twigged that this was one of those silly calls, the kind of call which is the beginning and end of the transaction. Looking back, I think I heard suspicious, rhythmic noises in the background. But of course one needs the work, and my training as a tantric masseur is all about not being judgmental. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. So I made the booking and set up the room.

Needless to say, he didn't show up. You may think I'm very naive, that I should demand pre-payment on PayPal to secure an appointment (I don't) but actually this happens extremely rarely. Once every few years. It's just that I've had two crazies in the last few months.

Clients sometimes ask me why I don't charge extra to travel to your place or hotel. Well, most of my sessions are at my place and sometimes I like a change of environment. If it's an outcall I don't have to spend time setting up my studio - and there's less laundry!

But I have also found that the feeling is completely different for outcalls, especially in hotels. These are neutral, uncluttered, often elegant spaces that offer a sense of specialness, of being on holiday. The massage feels more like a pleasure, less like a therapy.

Home-visits have a special feeling too. The client is in his own space and this can help him to feel more confident and in control.

All my sessions are unhurried. There is time before and after the massage to relax and chat. When I visit, the client doesn't have to worry about when the session is officially over and it's time for him to leave - that's my responsibility. Which in turn increases the feeling of relaxation.

Of course, we can create that hotel-massage or home-visit feeling in my studio too if you'd like... Just let me know!