I'm based in Berlin but I get quite a few clients who are visiting from the US. They have US cellphones, clearly. So this guy calls me and the line is very bad and he sounds a bit strange. It's a US number. I ask him if he's in Berlin and he says, "um... yes." I ask him whereabouts and he says, "Um... north of you." I can't remember clearly, but I think later on in the conversation, or in another call, he says he is "south" of me.

You see, I'm going over it all in retrospect to work out exactly when it was that I should have twigged that this was one of those silly calls, the kind of call which is the beginning and end of the transaction. Looking back, I think I heard suspicious, rhythmic noises in the background. But of course one needs the work, and my training as a tantric masseur is all about not being judgmental. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. So I made the booking and set up the room.

Needless to say, he didn't show up. You may think I'm very naive, that I should demand pre-payment on PayPal to secure an appointment (I don't) but actually this happens extremely rarely. Once every few years. It's just that I've had two crazies in the last few months.

Clients sometimes ask me why I don't charge extra to travel to your place or hotel. Well, most of my sessions are at my place and sometimes I like a change of environment. If it's an outcall I don't have to spend time setting up my studio - and there's less laundry!

But I have also found that the feeling is completely different for outcalls, especially in hotels. These are neutral, uncluttered, often elegant spaces that offer a sense of specialness, of being on holiday. The massage feels more like a pleasure, less like a therapy.

Home-visits have a special feeling too. The client is in his own space and this can help him to feel more confident and in control.

All my sessions are unhurried. There is time before and after the massage to relax and chat. When I visit, the client doesn't have to worry about when the session is officially over and it's time for him to leave - that's my responsibility. Which in turn increases the feeling of relaxation.

Of course, we can create that hotel-massage or home-visit feeling in my studio too if you'd like... Just let me know!

If you have had a massage with me, and you enjoyed it, do please leave a review!

Actually it is only possible to leave a review if it can be proved that you met me through this site, so with that in mind, it makes sense to contact me for the first time by messaging me here. Later we can communicate by WhatsApp or text to firm up the details of the appointment.

I'll be doing a discount on all Monday massages this summer and maybe beyond - down from €80/hour to €50/hour. I know seeing a masseur for the first time can be a leap of faith, so hopefully this way I will get to meet some new clients - and future regulars! It'll also be a way for guys on a budget to get to see me without breaking the bank. Let me know:-)

It's my job to give touch to anyone who wants it. Men come to me for relaxation, sometimes for coaching, sometimes to get a more spiritual, thoughtful, respectful approach to all things to do with the body and pleasure. Clearly some of them will always be men who want a safe space in which to experience male massage, and so some of them might be quite complicated. I respect this.

Some of my clients appear to be going through a mid-life crisis (which can strike at any age). They might be questioning their identity on a number of levels. I keep an open mind and above all I interact with them on the terms that they present. In other words, I don't see it as my job to challenge their reality or their sense of identity.

Very rarely, I meet someone whose inner life is clearly at variance with reality. On these occasions I need to make sure I get paid up front! Because he may be convinced that he left his wallet in the hire car, but actually he didn't, it's somewhere hidden in the flat, and for some reason he has decided not to pay me and use the money for something else...

(Ps: The client in this story finally paid me, so the story ended happily. But I had to insist!)

I was lucky enough to get a Corona vaccination when I was in London. Plus I have had Covid. Here in Germany this is considered to add up to a full vaccination, and my doctor has given me an "Impfpass" - a vaccination certificate. Very pleased. Maybe there will be more things to worry about later in the year, but for now I feel like I can get on with my life again.

I'm back in Berlin now, after quite a long stay in London over the month of April. The good news is that a friend connected me up with some people who have a very nice little studio in central London, which a carefully vetted selection of masseurs can rent for individual sessions. This means that when I'm in London I'll be able to do incalls. It adds a few more pounds to the price but it's still affordable. I hope to be able to re-connect with the London clientele in future.

Meanwhile, here in Berlin, things are opening up, as it seems the virus is under control. I've had Covid, plus an AZ vaccination, so apparently I'm fully immune.

I did a great session with Graham Martin while I was in London, and these are the new pics currently in my profile. To get the full feeling of physicality we did the session nude, and then cropped the photos afterwards to make them presentable on the internet. (I would hate to scupper my chances of one day becoming Prime Minister).

But if you'd like to see the glorious uncropped originals, drop me a line.

I got vaccinated in London, plus I've had Covid, so I am now re-opening my massage practice after over a year of shutdown. A new client, a regular, some inquiries. Explaining what tantric massage is and what its boundaries are, and aren't.

It's a pleasure to meet people, to relax and chat after the massage and hear about their thoughts and feelings. Some clients tend to disappear moments afterwards, others some slow right down and like to talk and exchange and extend the moment.

Clients are very polite and careful not to take up time they feel they haven't paid for. Actually I always make sure I have spare time before and after the session, so that there's no feeling of rush.

If it's your birthday I'm offering half-price massages!

This offer applies only to the day itself and is for massages of 90 minutes or more.

(I have been vaccinated and give massage when permitted, subject to current lockdown regulations).

Tomorrow is my last day in London for this trip, so please don't hesitate to get it touch if you are thinking of having a massage!

It's been a complicated trip to London, what with all the strange travel regulations, and on top of that some family duties. But I have been taking advantage of the city to set things up a bit for the much anticipated end of the lockdown.

I've met some lovely people who are going to let me rent their very nice massage rooms in central London, so I'll be more able to offer London incalls in the future. The rooms are warm and nicely decorated with very soft lighting, and are bang in the middle of the West End.

Plus I did some nice new pics - coming soon!

We heard in the last couple of days that two big supermarket chains in Germany will be selling affordable Corona quick-test kits very soon. So, although the government seems somewhat confused and divided over the issue, it looks like the market has stepped in. We are hoping that widely available quick-tests will make a big difference. In the case of massage, I can see no reason not to do a session if both masseur and client have tested negative that day. Of course, one wants to stay within the law, but things look hopeful. Feel free to contact me and we can see if a massage is possible.

I've noticed that when I talk to my partner about thoughts that are bothering me, it helps. It could be that one has thoughts that one is ashamed of, that one wishes one didn't have, or that one isn't quite sure about. It could be regarding any aspect of life. But simply by telling another human being about them, they stop being a secret and a burden. Most of us are rational people who want to do the best we can. We're not bad people. It's just that life is complicated. Maybe this is why Roman Catholics have confession (something I've never experienced!) - because it helps just to verbalise things in us that we're uncomfortable with.

As a Sacred Intimate I accept all aspects of the sensual life - the libido - the fantasy life - call it what you will. And I have noticed that it can be very refreshing and relaxing to be able to confess fantasies or sensual secrets to another person. My main practice is massage, but I invite clients to talk to me if they want to.

And while we're all stuck in this lockdown I'm very happy to talk on the phone if that would help.

One thing that's not generally known is that tantric or erotic massage can be used for personal growth. The combination of heightened sensual energy and a desire for change can have powerful effects.

Before the session, decide how you would like to change. For example, you may want to understand more about how you function psychologically. Or you may want to unlock a certain side of yourself - be more creative, more assertive, more connected, whatever. Take that idea to the session. Maybe tell your masseur about it. Then hold it in your mind during the session, and especially at the end of the massage.

I experienced this technique when training with Gay Love Spirit. It was in fact the core of the work: personal growth within the context of pleasure. I hardly realised while I was in the process, but looking back, it changed my life.