masseurduncan's Personal Masseur Interview

Last Updated: Nov 22, 2021

- I have always been a tantric-erotic masseur, for which I did train extensively. Because this is quite an unusual type of massage - at least, unusual to do properly - there are no accreditation systems in place, and you can't really get a recognised certificate. I made the conscious decision not to study a therapeutic massage discipline because I wanted to remain completely in the erotic realm - the realm of touch. The massage I give is confident but light, more about the skin than the muscles.

Erotic massage is as much an art form as a therapy, but some basic knowledge of anatomy is necessary, and beyond that, there is quite a lot of useful training that you can do. Looking after people in an intimate way is quite a complex and challenging business, and shouldn't be entered into lightly. There are various schools of erotic touch in Europe and America, which you can find with a little research. In Germany, start by checking out Gay Love Spirit and Authentic Eros (with its amazing Stretch Festival).

- Yes, I do remember it. I was quite young and wanted to do erotic massage but I hadn't really thought it through. It was such a disaster that I didn't even get paid. It was a long, long time before I tried again, and when I did I made sure I was properly prepared.

- I was doing a two-year *** and Spirit training with the German personal development group Gay Love Spirit. During the training I found that I had a talent for erotic massage. The fees for the course were quite high, so I decided to pay for the course by massaging.

Then I found that the work gave me balance in my life. It's good to have something that you do that is physical work, and it's good to have time which is dedicated to serving other people.

- Well, the best response would be, "I have never been touched like that before in my life!" - which I have very occasionally got. But seriously, I want my clients to feel peaceful, and more than that, I want them to feel at peace with their body and their erotic nature. I want them to feel that their whole being - body, mind and spirit - has been unified.

- I make music... ferment vegetables... Lots of stuff. I also make my own kombucha, which you are welcome to try if you come and see me.

I'm also a professional tarot reader - not exactly a hobby, but another string to my bow. Some masseurs mix massage and erotic work with tarot readings, and though that's not my regular thing, it's there if you want it.

- Twelve years. It's a nice thing to have in one's life. I imagine I'll keep it on the go in some form for as long as I am physically able to.

- Yes, successful in that I offer my own very particular thing. No-one does what I do better than me.

I tend to meet the clients I want to meet, because I write my text carefully and I specify what it is that I do. I am good at communication and rarely have misunderstandings with clients.

- I give my clients my undivided, 100 per cent attention for the entire time they are with me. They are my only priority for every second of the time they are here.

- I think most of the men who see me are responding to my text, and are coming for something slower, more thoughtful and more caring. So it may be that I get clients who are looking for an interlude in which they can re-find their centre, get back in touch with themselves, re-boot themselves in some way. A tantric massage offers validation: you are good enough as you are, you need nothing more, you are complete.
Our society encourages us to want things, to feel that we need things in order to be complete. And because it is so visual, it tends to make us feel that we need to look a certain way (or our partner does) in order for love and touch to take place. But it's not how someone looks that matters, it's the quality of the touch, and the attitude behind the touch.

- After you have decided what kind of massage you want to do and learnt how to do it, here are some tips: (1) Make sure the room is warm enough! There is nothing worse than a cold massage. (2) Be friendly. Even if the client doesn't want you to chat, he wants to feel welcome. (3) Get your text and your photos right and you will attract the right clients. Be clear and specific in your text, specifying exactly what makes your service unique. (4) Always look into the camera for your photos. If you are gazing moodily off to the side it will make it look like you are not going to give your full attention. (5) Have a pot of green tea and some fruit and chocolate out for the client. In my experience, he will hardly ever want more than a glass of water, but it creates an impression of abundance and sensuality.

- I travel less often than I used to these days, because I have settled in Berlin, which is, so far, my favourite city. You can get out of town pretty easily - in an hour you can be out in a forest, swimming in a lake. Each area of Berlin has its own distinctive character and its own way of doing things. I like showing people around the city too, so if you're alone in town and need a guide as well as a masseur, let me know.

- Touch is like a vitamin. It's a basic human need, and you get a lot of energy from it. So yes, massage could be addictive, but you also need to take a break from time to time. Sometimes I take a couple of years off, then go back.

- My touch and my presence.