EroSensu's Massage Interview
Do you remember your first client ? Tell us something about that first day when you decided to be a Masseur!
My first client was around 1990, when I started out as a Shiatsu therapist. I started a serious Shiatsu training after a more or less ‘accidental’ initiation weekend.
I was a law student and had had a childhood in which I never really had to do much with my hands and wasn’t actually stimulated to use them. I thought of almost everyone as handier than me.
During the Shiatsu initiation weekend, I discovered, and was told by the teacher, that I had a gift for treating people with my hands. That proved to be a really important revelation. I started to study Shiatsu and other massage forms and over the course of the years applied myself to several natural health disciplines. I became a Shiatsu therapist, was a yoga teacher and an alternative psychotherapist. I discovered Tantra and Tao erotics and found out how fundamental sensuality and eroticism are to the human body and mind.
It seemed like all of those experiences gradually led me to the unavoidable decision a few years ago, to at least try out being a full time masseur and to offer very sensual erotic massages. It was very quickly that I realized how much this activity changed my life for the better and I didn’t look back once!
Do you consider yourself a successful Masseur?
This has been a process. In the beginning it was hard to imagine being successful and how to achieve it. I have never been commercially oriented or been able to ‘market’ myself in the way that many seem to make it work. It just doesn’t fit my personality and it always feels fake and uncomfortable for me. Plus, there’s of course the fact that I’m not your typical attractive young muscled masseur. So I had some months of doubt in the beginning of my full time activity, a few years ago.
Then, slowly, I started to realize things were going to work out for me. I really had no other choice than to only be the masseur that I am and can be. That means, to provide the clients with the same strong experience that I have been fortunate enough to receive during some massages that I took, while also creating an atmosphere that induces relaxation, beauty, excitement and ecstasy for myself and the client.
It takes consciousness and focus, but it works incredibly well for me. There’s no good way to describe the joy it brings when someone tells you: “Wow, that was extraordinary, I have never experienced this before”. Very satisfying.
What are your hobbies, what do you like to do in your spare time?
I swim, work out and walk to stay in physical and mental shape. I love sauna, reading, cooking a delicious healthy meal, philosophizing by myself and with friends about life and humanity. And I spend quite some time taking very good care of my love life!
How long have you been a Masseur and how long do think you'd like to continue?
I started out as a full time Shiatsu therapist, almost 30 years ago. Between then and now I also explored other careers, but never stopped massaging and developing my experience. Since 2016, I’m a full time sensual and erotic masseur and I believe I will continue until my hopefully late retirement!
What advice would you give to someone who wants to be a Masseur?
Be patient, be interested. Take your time for all of the aspects involved. Sometimes it's weird or difficult, but if you relax and stay true to what really works for you, it can absolutely be great.
Enjoy making money with something very special, but don't force it, because that will make you feel bad about yourself and your work.
Respect the client and be as open as you can to what he brings to the table (😏), but also respect yourself and your important choices about what's possible for you. Show love and clarity.
You are a professional offering defined services to make life better for hopefully many clients and that's a valuable occupation. Take good care of it and you and the clients will be happy!
Some people say that being a Masseur is addictive. Would you miss your Masseur days ?
I relate to that remark! It’s clear to me that I just simply feel better and happier on the days I massage. There are several contributing factors.
The enormous power of human touch, both for the one who is being touched and the one who touches. I don’t think science has already fathomed all of the deep effects that good touch has.
The incredible intimacy and trust that establish themselves between me and the client. In a safe, warm, loving and interested contact, for the duration of the session, the client completely surrenders to what you are offering. This is so beautiful and so far away from daily life, that it often feels like some kind of miraculous blessing.
The clarity and peace that this practical and very structured work is bringing to my life. The simple routines around the massage sessions become like meditation rituals. They not only provide the basis for extraordinary moments during massages, but also keep your life focused and organized.